Tired of Jealousy? Astonishing results 1 hour Hypnosis ends it

Jealousy Fixed: Can't Let go of what she said

My client today discovered that his female partner was texting someone in Australia boasting that she was having sex with some other man. She said that she was actually winding up the other guy.

He has accepted this explanation but cannot let it go. Every time they have an argument or disagreement, he gets jealous, and brings it up. She is now telling him to get over it, move on, or find somebody else.

He keeps thinking about the incident and can't let it go. I decided to teach him  some thinking exercises.

I started on the Tiger exercise. He immediately told me that he cannot visualise a Tiger. In fact he cannot visualise anything. I tested with various things.

He couldn't even visualise a circle. He said that when he thought about the Tiger what came to mind was his own cat. A fat and lazy cat. But he wasn't seeing the cat. He was experiencing the cat.

He had no visual ability at all. I therefore could not use the thinking exercises. So, I didn't really know what to do.

Finding the source of the jealousy 

I asked him what he gets when he thinks about the texting incident. He told me that he can remember the car, and her leaving her phone on charge, and him thinking there's something odd about the text he'd seen, and then checking again later. And then feeling  jealous.

But he could not 'see' any of it. And he was quite astonished that I could visualise things easily and clearly. He appeared quite worried by this as if there was some sort of problem in him. But when he was talking about the incident he said "I can feel it now". So I decided to do metaphor replacement therapy or remove his jealousy.

I got him to think himself back to the incident and he quite quickly got the feeling. When he confirmed he had the feeling I asked him how big it was. "Massive". I asked them what colour it was.

He said "maybe black?". He was not visualizing it. I asked him "is it hot or cold?". He said it's cold. I asked him "what shape is it?". He said it's like the shape of a person, and outlined shoulders and a waist in the torso.

Removing the feeling

I asked him "can you make it a little bigger". He immediately said "no". I asked him if he could make a little bit smaller?. He immediately said "yes".

Very quickly he made it so small it could fit in his hand. I asked him what would happen when it goes away. "Then I could be free. I could have a chance of getting her back again. And I would be able to make good decisions again."

I then asked him what he wanted to happen to that thing. He said he wanted to throw it away. He imagined himself standing on a cliff and throwing this thing down.

I then gave him a visualization of that thing lying exposed on the soil. Then rusting and turning into little bits and being washed away.

I then tested him to go back to the incident and see if there was any feeling left. He could find no feeling. But he still wasn't convinced that it had gone. I talked about the process for a while and explained how it all worked.

Getting rid of the last bit of jealous feeling

Eventually he said that he's got another issue. He has jealousy about an ex-partner of his wife's who in his opinion stands too close to her and is trying to upset him. He gets angry and jealous whenever that guy is near his wife. I asked him to go back into the feeling. He got that.

Then I asked him "and what is it like?". "It's like a sheet, a sheet enveloping me."

He then said that he could pull the sheet off and I got him to do that in detail. He said that he'd thrown the sheet down on the ground. I asked him to pick it up. He had it between his hands. And I then got him to do something to it.

I suggested he could tear or shred it or set fire to it. He decided to set fire to it. It ended up as a small pile of ash very quickly. I got him to blow it away and sweep up whatever was left, and it was over.

He agreed that the feelings had gone. "I am not sure if it will stay gone!". But he never came back.

Jealousy Fixed: Someone else's jealousy

Jealousy can spoil relationships in different ways. This client was a  nice steady man who is being driven to distraction by his wife's jealousy.

When they go out, down to the pub, or just shopping, his wife's jealousy stops him even looking towards another woman. Even if he accidentally glances in some other woman's direction, his wife gets enraged and yells at him.

My client had put up with this for years, but it seems to be escalating.

There is nothing particularly wrong with my client, except an being over eager to please. Throughout his marriage, he has always done everything he can to keep his wife happy.

But now it's getting to a stage where she is so jealous that it is ruining their relationship.

You can't cure someone else's jealousy

My problem was that I cannot fix her jealousy by treating him. He wanted some sort of hypnosis that would prevent him from ever looking at another woman.

That is, he wanted me to do something that would mean his eyes would automatically avert themselves if there was a woman in his field of view. He hoped that would prevent his wife getting jealous and making a scene.

I felt that his level of wanting to please went beyond normal. He was quite willing to change his behavior to fit in with absolutely anything his wife demanded.

This suggested to me that he had some sort of self esteem issues. He was constantly allowing someone else to walk all over him. But if I changed him so that he stood up to his wife's bad behavior then this would probably wreck his marriage.

That was not the outcome he wanted. He wanted to avoid precisely that.

Using Behavioural therapy for jealousy

So I thought back to my psychology training days. If his wife's behavior was triggered by some stimulus in the environment, then I should be able to provide another stimulus that would create a different behavior in her. Classical conditioning psychology teaches that you can substitute a new behavior for an old behavior.

I suggested that because it was his behavior that triggered the wife's criticism, he could do something else as well. Every time he finds himself looking at a woman, he should add a head shake.

She can then interpret  that as him rejecting that woman. If the two behaviors are always presented together, the second behavior will cancel out the first one.

He thought this was a good idea, and certainly worth trying. But he came here to be hypnotized, and he wanted hypnosis. Fair enough.

So I  hypnotized him, and used Parts therapy aimed at installing a new part in him that would never forget to add the head shaking.

He left very pleased, and keen to try out his new behavior. Hypnosis is amazing.