Fear of Flying Hypnosis
End Fear of Flying with Hypnosis
IT IS NOT ALL THE SAME
You can get rid of the feelings caused by fear of flying. Hypnosis usually successful in one session.
The most common type is where the person has flown before, sometimes many times. Then with each succeeding flight they get more and more nervous until they are no longer able to fly at all, or have to go through agonies and panic attacks before each flight.
Another type of Fear of Flying applies to people who have never flown and are terrified at the very idea of it. These people often have a fear of heights, or some other phobia.
A third type of Fear of Flying is where the traveler is OK all the way up to the point where they shut the doors ready for takeoff and then they panic. This fear is actually claustrophobia, a fear of being trapped in a confined space, not the actual flying.
Fear of flying is an anxiety disorder. Your mind is going over and over all the things that can go wrong. All types of are fixed by treating the underlying issues. It generally needs only one session to end the problem.
Understanding your own mind
Fear of flying is an unreasonable fear of something that is not in fact dangerous. However thousands of people are actually terrified of flying. You know it's irrational. And yet you still have this dreadful, awful fear of the idea of flying.
Like all phobias, fear of flying is a learned response. The normal way of acquiring this phobia is when you are on a flight something unexpected and frightening happens. It could be turbulence, it could be a strange noise from the plane, it can be anything. The key element is a completely unexpected event, and that event is instantly frightening.
At that point your mind goes into panic mode. It searches your memory for anything similar to this. The reason we have memories is to tell us how to behave when something happens that is similar in the past. Normally, your memory will find something reasonably similar, and will also find what you did to get through that incident.
Learning the phobia
The phobia, the fear of flying, is established when your mind, instead of finding a memory where you dealt with the problem, it finds finds a memory that is even more terrifying. It finds a memory in which you were unexpectedly thrust into a situation, you were deeply frightened, and you couldn't get away from it.
This in itself is an unexpected, and deeply frightening event. You're sitting on a plane where something frightening has occurred, and your mind has now served up to you a memory of something even more frightening, and you couldn't get away from it. The unexpected recall now doubles your fear. You have the real fear in the plane, and the memory of some terrifying fear from childhood.
Due to the way the mind learns, you have now formed a link between flying and fear. Eventually the plane lands safely. But you have now created a phobic association. Every time you think of flying, that terrifying childhood memory comes roaring back.
The real cause
The memory has nothing to do with flying. In most cases it's where a child was locked in a cupboard. Or some other incident where a child was frightened and unable to escape. The reason the memory comes back is because it was never resolved. The child buried that feeling. But under similar circumstances the feeling will come out again.
This is how phobias like claustrophobia are established. There is nothing frightening about a lift, but the mind connects a confined space to that ancient memory of being trapped in some place. It is not the fear of the lift that you're feeling, it is the original fear when you were trapped in some dark confined place.
Get rid of the fear for ever
Fear of flying is just a special case of that general phobia. The solution is to ignore the flying part. That is not important. What hypnotherapy does is to get you to think about the fear you have right now. To get you to feel that fear in the chair right now.
As soon as you feel the fear I will get you to think of that fear as an object. I get you to convert your emotional reaction into an image or a metaphor object. Then I show you how to change the object of the image. By changing the object you're actually changing the fear. There is a one-to-one correspondence between the fear and the metaphor object. Changing one changes the other.
As soon as you have changed the object enough, it changes the fear into something that is no longer self-sustaining. At that point the fear disappears. What you have done is to eliminate the childhood fear. Therefore there is nothing for the feeling about the flight to connect to. And your fear of flying phobia is gone forever.
By the end of the session you will be eager to get to the airport and get on that plane.
Fear of Flying Cases
This client worked for a Government Department. Her current job requires her to travel occasionally to distant offices. She loves her job, but hates flying. Really, really hates flying. She is a nervous wreck before each flight.
But now she has been offered a promotion. She will have to fly every week, sometimes several times a week. She is terrified and asked me to help.
Look for the real feeling
I asked her to think about getting on a plane. She immediately tensed up, and showed signs of distress. I told her to think about the feeling she was getting. But to think about it as a 'thing', something that was separate from her.
I said 'Now describe that 'thing''. She said it was 'round'. 'A round thing, with tentacles. It was the size of a tennis ball. Grey in color. The tentacles were pulsing, like blood vessels.' 'It was heavy, made of stone.' I asked what she wanted to have happen to it. She wanted to 'crush it'. She did not have a clear idea of what she would be able to after it was crushed.
I asked her 'can you crush it?'. 'What will you crush it with?' She said 'a stone. A flat dark grey stone'. She then proceeded to crush it into little bits, and break up the tentacles. It became powdery and she put it in the bin.
I then asked her to sense her body. 'See if there is anything left anywhere in your body that has something to do with that old feeling about flying.'
She said 'a feeling of emptiness'. This meant that some part of her was getting some benefit from the old behavior. I have a standard routing in these cases. I get the client to think of pleasant, helpful, fulfilling things. Then I got her to transfer all of these helpful, positive things into the space where that old feeling was.
We tested again, and all the feeling associated with Flying had gone. Only took ten minutes.
Fear of Flying therapy
I had a client with an absolute fear of flying. The idea terrifies him. He gets sick for weeks before it. He gets night sweats, tremors, complete wreck. Hates being on a plane. He is now applying for a job where he will have to fly at least twice a week. It seems to be the movement, and particularly, the fear of a drop is what causes his panic. He could not think of any reason why he had this fear of flying.
It seemed to me this was an ideal case for metaphor replacement therapy. We talked about his feelings for a while, and then straight into the therapy.
When I started to lead him into trance I got a big surprise. This guy seemed to me to be one of the most hypnotisable people I've ever come across. He just fell into trance almost instantly. I think his basic problem is that he is hypnotising himself into the fear of flying.
Fear of Flying metaphor therapy
To get him to relax, I did a brief breathing induction. I asked him to think about getting on a plane. I walked him through getting the tickets, going to the airport, going to check-in, waiting for the boarding call, and then walking across the bridge and into the plane and taking his seat. Then I talked him through the plane taking off and a lot of shaking and shuddering and called up his feeling that the plane was going to drop suddenly. He was clearly agitated and in the feeling.
Visualize the fear object
I therefore got him to visualise what the feeling was like. He said "It is like a rock". I asked him what size it was and he said "about the size of a soccer ball". I then asked him to describe the rock in as much detail as he could. He said "it's pretty jagged, black, and there is a horrible feeling around it". More probing revealed that it was terrifying, the outside was hard and rough and it had no particular temperature. What was interesting was that while I was asking him what it would be like if he touched it and felt it, he was using his hand as if he was feeling this soccer ball rock. And then I asked him what temperature it was, he was using both hands as if they were on each side of the rock. He was totally living the experience of that metaphor.
Establish the link
The next stage of Metaphor Replacement Therapy is to find out what the link is between that rock and their feelings. I asked, "what would you like to have happen to that rock?". He said "disappear". I asked, "what would that mean for you if that rock disappeared?". He said, "relief". So I asked, and what can you do then". He said, "I could relax". I didn't want him to learn how to relax. So I asked the further question "when you have that 'relax', what can you do then, what about flying?". He then said, "I could enjoy flying". I had now established the link between the rock, the metaphor, and the feelings he wanted to get rid of.
Get ownership of the metaphor object
I then started asking him questions that would allow him to alter that rock. "What happens to rocks over time?" He said, "they get smaller". It seemed to me that he was comfortable with changing the size of his rock. So I said to him "can you imagine that rock a little bit bigger?". He said, "yes". "And can you imagine a little bit bigger still?". "Yes." So he could make it bigger. Most people with anxiety problems can easily make their problem seem bigger. So I said to him, "Now put it back the way it was. Now just make it a little bit smaller. Can you make it a little bit smaller?" I then asked him to make it bigger and smaller, and he was able to do that. Then I said, "do you realize that that means that you have control of this thing?" That changed his whole perspective of it.
Destroy the metaphor object
I then got him to think about what might happen to that rock. And very quickly, he described it as cracking and crumbling, and the whole thing just fell apart. I then got him to get rid of all of the bits that were left and he confirmed that it had disappeared.
Replace the Fear of Flying object
The next stage then is to replace the old metaphor with a new metaphor. I then suggested that he focus on the place without rock had been. "Your mind will find something you could put in there, something you would like, something useful." I suggested "some people like to use a sunny day, some people a child's smile, some people the feeling of triumph when they won something". "I wonder what your mind will want to put in there?"
And then I encouraged him to put his special thing in that place. I told him that once it got there he would experience a colour, a vibration, or a sound,orsomething quite special. It would fill that place. It would overflow that place. He would fill the whole of his body with that wonderful feeling.
Out of trance
I then told him to count himself out of trance and back into the present."
And how does that whole fear of flying business seem to you now?
He said with excitement, "it feels like nothing nothing at all".
I asked him how he was feeling. He said, "I am wonderfully relaxed, and I love that blue feeling that I'm feeling inside".
This client was too terrified to even accept a ticket. She lives around Nelson, and has to go to Wellington regularly. She used to be able to fly but now turns down her parent's offers of tickets and takes the ferry instead. Her fear of flying is so strong, she vomits on the plane. When she has to travel by air, she dreads the idea for weeks before.
I explained the theory of metaphor therapy to her. Then I did a brief breathing induction. I got her to visualize flying and airports and turbulence and so on, to induce the fear. She took a long time to get the feeling. She said she felt it in her hands. Eventually I saw from her face that she was getting into it. I told her to allow the feeling to grow, that it could not harm her, that nothing in her mind could harm her. I told her to think of the feeling as something that had come into her life. She was to think of it now like an object lodged in her body.
I told her to think of it as something in a glass case in a museum, or under a glass dome. Somewhere she could examine it, poke it, measure it. She said it was like a rock. The rock was dark grey, not very big, smooth, solid, quite heavy, oval in shape. I asked what she wanted to have happen to it. She said to leave it in the museum. I then asked what that would mean for her if that rock stayed in the museum case. "Then I could not be afraid", she said. The next stage is to lead her to find ways to destroy the 'thing' that represents her fears. I asked 'what happens to things left in a museum?' She said 'it would get dusty'. Then I asked 'what happens to things in a museum case after a long time?' She said that 'if it didn't get visited for a long time ,it would shrink.' I developed that idea, of it getting old, wrinkled, flakes falling off. Let her develop the idea, and then she said it fell off its stand, and split. Eventually she had reduced the rock to dust. Finally, I got her to imaging sweeping up the dust and throwing it away.
In this case, the client was not able to get a physical reaction to the fear. But she was able to visualize her fear directly. I learned that you don't really need the person to get a physical manifestation of the feeling, it is enough to invite them to transfer the feeling into a metaphor.
BOOKING YOUR FEAR OF FLYING SESSION
Fear of flying can deny you the pleasure of overseas holidays. It can restrict business opportunities. It can prevent you from seeing relatives at times of crisis. And it is totally unnecessary. Fear of Flying can be removed. Why put up with it if you don't have to?
Your session lasts about an hour, and costs $100.