Do you need to talk about something?
Counseling is not all the same
Did you know there are different styles of counselling? Choosing the wrong counselor is worse that having no counsellor.
Most counselling is passive. You talk, they listen. Most are trained to never give advice. The theory is that by talking it through, you will somehow find your own solution.
I am not passive. I concentrate on why you feel the way you do, and how to fix it. One-size-fits-all therapy doesn't work. You are unique. You feelings come from your history. You need someone who starts from that idea.
I have 21 years experience of using the right tool on the real problem. Isn't that what you need?
Anxiety and confidence are two sides of the same coin. Once something or someone crushes your confidence you find it hard to bounce back again. Then anxiety grows, you worry about what might go wrong, and that knocks away more confidence.
You need to find a way to break out of that cycle. When you are in that cycle of self doubt you sometimes lose sight of the bigger picture. Details seem overwhelming. There seems to be no way out.
Talking to a professional will help you get your feelings back into perspective. Once you have someone to share your concerns with, they don't seem so bad, do they?
Good counselling does more than provide a friendly ear. You get another view. You get a trained professional to analyze your situation. You don't have a conversation, you get an in depth exploration of the underlying issues.
Lack of confidence has roots in the past. Anxiety comes from applying past feelings to today's problems. When we find the source of your anxiety we can show you how to let it go. And that clears the way to lifelong confidence.
So don't put up with it any more. Maybe it is time to ask for help? See what times are available.
It might feel impossible, but you need to start somewhere. Check the calendar to see what times might suit you.
Your sexuality is the core of who you are. A poor sex life affects every aspect of your well being. A sex counselor is not the same as a sex therapist.
A sex therapist helps you with the physical side of sex and sexuality. Sex Counselling focus on how you feel about matters relating to sex.
Counseling can help with issues of performance or identity or abuse or relations. Sexual problems often are anxiety problems, disguised as something else. The real cause might be low self image, or unrealistic expectations of yourself.
It also can be fear of failure, childhood indoctrination or many other things. It is often a question of trust. A very common cause is childhood sexual abuse, and the shame and fear caused by that.
Depression can cause lack of interest, physical effects and solitude.
Sexuality is complex, and sexual problems have been around since Adam and Eve. Most respond well to therapy. There is no reason to let it go on.
Even if you have tried other things, it is worth talking to someone experienced in the link between sex and feelings. See if there is a time to suit you.
People without social confidence find it difficult to meet new people. They blush and get flustered. They get on well enough with workmates. But their day consists of - go to work, go home, go to bed, go to work again. Without social confidence what you miss is social warmth.
Humans are social animals. We evolved to live in groups, in families and villages. But modern life is forcing more and more of us to live and work in isolation. When we lose our social support group, we no longer have the resilience to deal with personal feelings. Social Anxiety comes in many forms. See the specialized page about specific therapies.
Social confidence is not the same as social phobia. Social Confidence is about being comfortable in social situations other than work situations. It is about being able to expose your feelings to others, not about business transactions.
If you feel you are not getting enough out of life, or you just don't connect, or you feel alone while surrounded by people, perhaps talking about about it is the right first step? See what counselling times are available.
Work is a major part of our lives. Working involves dealing with employees, managers, suppliers and customers. It also involves risk and deadlines and demands. All of these cause stress, disruption and anxiety.
Severe pressure of work affects your social life and your self esteem. Gossip, sarcasm, isolation, envy are inevitable at work. Sour relationships affect your mental wellbeing. You might not think of it as workplace anxiety. Procrastination, bullying, burnout and loneliness are workplace related.
Counseling can be booked by the employer for staff. Or employees set up their own sessions. All sessions are totally confidential. See what times are available.
Counseling is often the best therapy. Sometimes we are too close tot the problem. Counseling can help you see things from a different point of view. Good counseling is both searching and intimate at the same time. And of course, confidential.
A session lasts an hour, and costs $120. You can do it face to face, or you might prefer to use Zoom. See what times are available that might suit you.