Weird Reasons for Smoking
Every Smoker is unique.
Weird Reasons for Smoking
Everyone smokes for a reason. Many don't know the reason. Many people have never thought about it. And many have weird reasons for smoking.
The Angry Smoker
Every smoker is different. One of my clients recently came back for another session after having been stopped for several months from the first session. She told me that she started again after having a bust up with her partner. Her partner hated it when she used to smoke, so she started again, just to get back at him.
Only now she can't stop smoking, because stopping would mean that he had in some way won. And she didn't like the idea of him winning, but didn't want to smoke either. So here she was, back for another session.
Weird Reasons for Smoking: He made me do it
Another smoking client gave me yet another bizarre reason for smoking.
I asked her "Have you ever been hypnotized before?" She said, "Yes, about twenty years ago." I asked "what for?" "Smoking", she replied. I asked her "Did you get hypnotized? Did it work?" She said "I didn't like the hypnotist. He was arrogant and didn't listen to me". "I felt he was unprofessional and abrupt. He annoyed me".
She stopped smoking for a day, and then started again, just to prove he was no good.
Weird Reasons for Smoking: Smoking to stop someone else smoking.
This guy told me that he started smoking as a sort of reverse psychology. He wanted to get his girlfriend to stop smoking. So he started smoking himself to put pressure on her to stop. He ended up spending seven years trying to give it up himself.
Smoking as self sabotage
This man was smoking thirty a day, wanted to stop smoking and did not understand his own behavior. Smoking was making him ill, he was coughing and felt bad. The cough would even waken him up at night. After the coughing fit had passed he would have another cigarette before going back to sleep. His own behaviour horrified him, and had tried everything to stop. He could give up for three or four weeks but then something made him start again.
He started smoking at 17, and had no particular family issues. I could find no original behavioral reasons for smoking. He had absolutely no clues as to why he always kept starting again. It appeared that he often smoked in order to get time to think during the day, but this could not explain why he was smoking at night.
Smoking changes feelings
He said that he felt unsettled when he was a non-smoker, and that he had a feeling of calmness when he started again. And was the clue to why he smoked. He had one feeling when he was a smoker, and a different feeling while he was stopped.
I asked him how well he slept. That led on to an analysis of depression symptoms. He clearly had depression.
In particular he had high expectations that led to sudden flashes of irritation when he didn't reach them. This was the reason why he smoked. He was suffering from Black and White thinking. Every time he gave up, he would go along fine for a while, and then something would trigger a negative feeling. He got frustrated with how things were going, so he would start full on smoking as a way of self sabotage.
Keeping a promise
This client had smoked for over forty years. He really wanted to give up. He hated the smell, and the cost and his health wasn't good. I asked him "On a scale of one to ten, where ten is I would do anything. How much do you want to give up?" He said "Ten."
I asked "On a scale of one to ten, where 10 is no problem. How much do you believe that you can give up today?" He said "One."
"Why the huge difference? Have you ever given up?"
"Yes, I gave up once for a week", he said. "What happened?", I asked.
He said "It was so bad, that I swore to myself, 'I promise I will never try to give up again'. And I have kept that promise. I can't break a promise."
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