Stop procrastinating tomorrow!
Procrastinating is probably the most common complaint in business. Most people reckon they would be millionaires if they didn't procrastinate so much. Lives and careers have been ruined through procrastination.
Procrastination is knowing that you should be doing something, wanting to do that something, and you just can't. It is either not being able to make a start, or not being able to finish. Some people put off things at work, or assignments at college, going to the gym, or even trying to ask for a date. In every case it is something you actually are capable of, but just cannot get yourself to do it.
Procrastination is basically a fear of being criticized. For many people that fear is so overwhelming, so terrifying, that they would rather put off doing it than dare to produce something that you might be told is not be good enough. But strangely, most people are not aware of having that fear.
is about avoiding criticism. It is a fear of disapproval, of not being good enough, of failing to measure up, maybe having to tell someone you have failed. It usually has roots in childhood. At some point, perhaps many times, a parent, a teacher, somebody, told you you weren't good enough. It put the unconscious belief in you that nothing you did was good enough, would ever be good enough.
Every time you did something, when you were hoping for praise, instead what you got was ridiculed, rejected, made to feel stupid and unwanted. And your mind hated it. You wanted to run away, to hide, to stop the horrible words. Your mind will do anything to avoid that feeling again.
So the mind finds ways for you never to be in that situation again.
Procrastination Protects you
If you never finish it, or never start it, you can't be criticised, can you? And while the deadline is far away, there is no problem, but as the deadline approaches, the time of judgment approaches, and the fear of the pain of criticism grows and grows until it is unbearable. At that point the pressure is too much to resist and you slap something together at the last moment. Sometime it is enough to get accepted, but it would be much better to have planned it and started long before the deadline.
is where you know how to do something, can do it, but are constantly distracted by unnecessary and self indulgent activities. Surfing the Internet, checking online auctions, reading the news and so on all seem to be more important right now, more attractive than doing all the important things that you are supposed to be doing. Its source is a general anxiety about the individual not being good enough.
Distraction procrastination is about rewards. There is instant gratification available from reading Facebook, or checking emails or some other way of wasting time. There is no gratification from doing the ordinary boring routine jobs you are paid to do.
What happens is your mind fixes on the dull stuff and can't find anything interesting in it anymore. And so imagines it to be even more dull. Especially in comparison to what might be happening out in the real world. So you go seeking stimulation and very soon have trained yourself into a behaviour pattern that is hard to shift.
is the feeling of 'why bother' that applies to everything. Typically you put off exercising, or can't be bothered cooking. Or maybe youdon't want to go out, and would rather just slump in front of the television. This does not apply to one specific activity, but to all activities.
It tends to get worse over time. This is often the result of undiagnosed depression, or dysthymia. It can be treated effectively and quickly. It is not really procrastination, it reflects a loss of interest in life generally.
All these mechanisms are based on projected fear, imagined fear, the memory of fear, not real fear. The cure is to deal with that fear, to actually look at it, to focus on it, to imagine a different outcome, to get your mind to deal with the original situation and change how it makes you feel.
The behavioural psychology way to deal with it is to do the thing you fear. Like the slogan says - Just do it. And every time you do it, it will never be as bad as your mind has built it up to be, and after a few repetitions, the fear will abate and the procrastination will be gone. However, the problem may be intermittent rather than chronic, and some people cannot even get to the starting line, never mind get past it.
Hypnotherapy is very effective for the distraction type of procrastination. A direct suggestion script is used to reduce the attraction of the external time wasters, and to increase personal motivation. It enables the subconscious connection between time and money, and reframes the routine jobs as being rewarding and stimulating and installs better work habits.
Cognitive therapy offers another way of dealing with it. Whatever the symptoms, the basic therapy is to find and correct the underlying fear. This is normally done in one or more sessions, in which the person becomes aware of how their mind is representing their problem, and then changes that representation. Changing how the mind represents the problem destroys what is causing the problem. And the procrastination is gone.
Procrastination can be difficult to eradicate but it can be fixed. How long it takes depends on the individual. But it won't get better unless you do something about it. What are you waiting for?
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